Good things come to those who DON'T wait

Life is not easy. Relationships are not easy. Parenthood is not easy. Success is not easy. Growing up, I used to hear this saying all the time...."good things come to those who wait". I believed it for the longest time. I always knew one day I would be happy and that all my dreams would come true. One day, I woke up... Good things come, they do. But not to those who wait. Waiting doesn't get you anywhere in this life we live in. Waiting is only a sure way to disappointment and heartbreak. 

In our society, there is no room for waiting. There's no time to wait. Before you know it, you are eaten alive. I'm not as successful as I would like to be, not as accomplished as I wish I was, the one thing I know is, I am the only master of my life. I cannot sit around and wait. No one will make me happy if I'm not happy within myself. No one will hand me a $50 000 check out of nowhere and no one will be a better mom to my child if I am not because I am her mother.

At the same time, there seems to always be road blocks at each turn. My advice to myself is "expect them, don't let them surprise you."

So, yes life is hard. I wish people would stop sugar coating it. However, if we knew what we were capable of, if we didn't wait comfortably, we would be better off. 

This is not meant to discourage but a loving kick in the butt. It is a new year and as I write this,  I am helping myself. Every time I write, it is a form of therapy and self discovery. I hope my posts speak to you and touch you somehow. 

Stay strong and don't forget to laugh. (I try even when I don't feel like it)

Once upon a time in my mind

Sometimes I do sketches spaced out and they may not be perfect and professional looking but they tell me about what I'm preoccupied about. ( most of the time).

This one, what I can read from it is,a startled confused woman, who's struggling to find who she is... Struggling with what she thinks society wants from her. The woman who would never go outside her door without any makeup on. Everything feels exagarated just by looking at her, just because this is how she truly feels. She cries alone, so lonely in her privacy because of all the pressure she feels to be perfect and then she puts on her makeup, her mask and walks amongst the population. She always feels inadequate so instead of showing who she is, she sells this perfect image she feels everybody needs to see. Without knowing it, she's destroying herself. 

Let's love ourselves just the way we are. Stand up for the person within and WIN.

LOVE,

J